• Dreams hold fascinating meaning, but how do we interpret them?


    As I stated in my previous post, What’s in a dream? (The power of therapy), my experience of a recurring dream I’d had for years suddenly stopping after a few weeks of therapeutic discussion with my analyst about a very specific topic, led me to be even more fascinated by dream work.

    I was already enthralled by the work of Sigmund Freud – his masterpiece, The Interpretation of Dreams – which I will use as a base for the following series of posts on dream life, but having my own experience of the power of therapy and interpretation of dreams has led me down a great journey.

    This great journey includes the writing of my first fictional novel, The Beckoning Rooms, which is currently with the editor (with already positive feedback from her and my beta-readers!).

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  • What’s in a dream? (The power of therapy)


    What is in a dream?

    That is the question that I pose to you today.

    Not as a random question, but as one that would trigger your thoughts and lead you to delve into the exploration of the meaning of dreams and how this relates to therapy and therefore to the unconscious.

    My counselling training has been covered by a blanket of psychoanalytic theories and wonderful tutors that made these theories come alive.

    I am integrative in practice, but at my core I will always have an analytical mind when it comes to exploring the unconscious and the issues my clients bring me.

    Freud wrote The Interpretation of Dreams around 100 years ago, and more has been theorised since then.

    In this series, I want to talk about Freud’s theory, and possibly also Jung and other theorists, in regard to our dream life.

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  • Make Friends with Frustration by Disentangling your Genius Within (part 3) – Guest Blog series by Gill Bentham


    Welcome to this third and final installment of Gill Bentham’s guest posts – for now.

    I hope you’re enjoying them so far!

    Let’s see what Gill has in store for us next…


    Meet our Genius who overcame Madness


    I knew that for our discussion about this knot, the guest genius I had in mind had to be a master at cyclical and escalating rhythm. 

    He was the byword for perseverance and analytical correction by process of elimination. 

    I contacted Thomas Edison, the inventor of the incandescent light bulb!

    However, he had heard that the halogen and energy saving light bulbs had taken the corner on the market he once opened up so bravely! 

    After his reputed ten thousand failed attempts to give the world its first electric light bulb, he then scaled up manufacture and made it economically viable for every household to enjoy. 

    Edison graciously acknowledges that technology has now moved beyond even this feat!

    Edison wanted to give way for our seventh knot of genius to be modelled by a more modern inventor who is still at the forefront of his game. 

    So please welcome your contemporary inventor and entrepreneur, Mr. James Dyson!!


    Tall, youthful in visage and with a shock of white hair, James casually eases himself into a revolving and reclining office chair. 

    There is something very compelling and slightly intimidating about his incisive gaze that does not quite sit with his opening statement.


    ‘My life is a life of failure,’ he jests.

    Then I realise he is not joking, he knows that his journey with failure and setback has been his education.

    That this in itself IS an education and the inferior institution of established Western education I experienced is a poor substitute for learning by enquiry and experiment.

    It is a rare gift for one to be able to endure so much frustration and repetition of apparent failure yet still manage to progress a degree closer and closer to an intangible outcome.


    Every time there is a setback, there is a corresponding new insight or understanding. 

    Every failure is redeemed and recycled into a new insight.  This is so different to one who experiences and yet never learns.


    This commitment to improvement requires humility.

    It is an attribute that James Dyson possesses in spades.  Hitting “Repeat” is not madness if there is a single spark of novelty to the next level of enquiry, a new variable, a new angle, a new speed or component part!

    James says, I start with what others ignore and make it better, going on to explain that his interest in everyday objects has been a secret to his success.

    “I ask ‘What do I want’, ‘What can I leave out?’  I use these products myself, I am a user! I always want to make everything neater, smaller, more elegant, even though it’s functional.  I

    t has to be purposeful AND elegant!  This is my trademark and after something in the region of 5,000 prototypes do you not think I will fiercely protect that?”


    In this observant way, every time James brushes his teeth, flushes a toilet or picks up one of his bagless cyclone suction machines, he thinks ‘What else?’, ‘What next?’ or ‘How?’ He is beautifully curious about and convicted by what others never even notice!

    I sense his passion to pass this on to children, young people and invest a heritage of inquisitiveness. 

    Rather he is protecting and defending that quality which children are naturally born with.

    There’s always room for one more question, one more ‘What if?’

    Then, my jaw gapes open when I hear these words fall out of his mouth.


    ‘It all starts with Frustration!’

    I captured it on YouTube, check it out for yourself! Dyson’s motive

    I know now, I have come full circle.

    Yet I am starting out again at a higher plane.

    Frustration was my enemy.

    Now Frustration is my friend!

    I can recreate with revived enthusiasm and hope. I have the next iteration in mind and it will be better than the last!


    In your ideal private and inspirational imagined Studio space, ask yourself,

    What significant and incremental change do you need to make now?

    What can you do differently?

    Do you have any idea what you are working towards?

    What is the next degree of its evolution?

    And the next?

    And the next?

    How will you know when you get to it?

    What will help you stay honest?

    What will tempt you to settle for “Good enough”?

    How will you honour rather than resent frustration in your life from now on?

    Can YOU be friends with frustration?


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  • Jenna dreams about the end of her world

    In her dreams, she’d usually wake up in her bed, mid-morning, feeling rested and hopeful for the day ahead.

    This time waking up felt different. The calm before the storm.

    Usually the noises outside were of cars rushing past, or children chattering away, as they walked with their mothers towards the local school.

    She didn’t dare look out the window. She opted for getting herself ready for whatever she’d be facing this sunny summer’s day.

    At least it’s sunny, she thought.

    As she grabbed her purse and keys, and opened the front door, she hesitated for a moment.

    Still looking at the floor, she slowly moved her gaze upward, to see the outside world, expectation of more of the same was there, but an eerie sense of difference was looming in the back of her mind.

    School bags on the ground, abandoned as if they wouldn’t be useful any longer. Their owners long gone. But where did they go?

    It was a 20mph road, so cars didn’t exactly crash. She would’ve heard it from her room.

     Noticing the two hatchbacks, like rams facing each other, Jenna realised that she was witnessing something big. Something she didn’t know how to get out of.

    Where are all the people? What has happened overnight?

    She searched for signs of her neighbours, or the noisy children that often annoyed her out of her slumber.

    No sign of either.

    What did this mean? What could possibly have happened that meant that she was the only one around?

    It had been a strange year for her. Lots going on. Not much she could make sense of. And now this?

    What am I meant to do now? I have no idea what to do. She thought as she wandered around the familiar streets and into the town centre.

    In town she found more of the same. Abandoned shopping bags, cars in disarray, as if they’d bumped into each other, their drivers suddenly gone.

    Why me? Why isn’t there anyone else around? What does this mean?

    Even though she enjoyed her alone time, she started to feel really lonely without another human soul in sight.

    She sat down on a bench overlooking her favourite café. A bench she’d sat on many times before.

    She wasn’t scared, just confused and troubled by what this meant for her future. Is there a future?


    As she awoke from her dream, the question lingered in her mind: is there a future?

    In the reality of her awakening, Jenna struggled to come up with an answer.

    Reassured by the children and car noises outside, she took a deep breath, leaving her somnolent state behind.

    She’d had this dream before. Many times. Still unsure of its meaning, she’d accumulated a few theories: an alien invasion perhaps, or the Christian harpazo maybe. A third choice, her favourite by far, was that she’d gone to an alternate timeline where the world would be re-populated, one by one. There were others like her but they hadn’t crossed over just yet.

    Thinking of her theories, she got up and got ready for her day.


    Follow my blog via the link below to see what Jenna will dream up next Monday. I’ll be writing a blog post answering some of the questions above in the near future.


    The Beckoning Rooms Novel is now in it’s final development stages. My second baby is about to be brought into the world!.

    I will be launching it soon.

    This fiction mini-series will hopefully be whetting your appetite and get you ready for the novel. The characters are the same, but what happens in the novel is very different than what happens in this “prequel”.

    Be sure to stay tuned for another series, coming up after this one, on dream interpretation.

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  • Make Friends with Frustration by Disentangling your Genius Within (part 2) – Guest Blog series by Gill Bentham


      Welcome to the second installment of Gill Bentham‘s guest post series. She’s the author of ‘Disentangling Genius’ and As If.

    If you missed the first one, click here or visit the main page to read it.

    Has the image to the left made you curious about what Gill will talk to us about in this post?

    Let’s continue where we left off last time, shall we…


    A sane reaction to a mad world?

    I was a student nurse in the mid-1980s.  In our third year of lectures we were learning about the classical theories of psychiatry and different perspectives on the resilience of the mind. 

    Some claimed that madness is the only sane reaction to the madness of the modern world. 

    We laughed at the longstanding and ironic joke that it was impossible to tell the psychiatric hospital staff from the patients. 

    We wondered anxiously whether we would come out of this placement the same as we entered!

    I did not.


    Those were the last days of the old institutional mental hospitals before the Community Care Act and the mass closure of psychiatric hospital beds in the UK.

    My placement at the now demolished remote red brick Victorian Beverley Common hospital, Broadgates was unsettling. 

    It didn’t help that we were heading into the depths of winter, a long term of the most intensive clinical placement of four days a week. 

    The only form of transport for the unearthly seven a.m. start, eight miles from Hull City was on a bicycle along dark unlit lanes, and occasionally through the snow!

    That season I was jolted quite unexpectedly into the realisation of the fragility of the human psyche.


    Here on a “medium-stay” secure ward for females I came across a woman who in the Second World War had experienced repeated air raid sirens. 

    This had triggered a psychological meltdown and she had been institutionalised ever since, for the last forty years of her life.


    Another distressed woman I’ll call Teresa, spent the day pacing the ward, screaming, wringing her hands, repeatedly trying to undress herself and defaecate on the lino floor. 

    The weekly highlight was her husband’s visit with her favourite bag of dolly mixture sweets. 

    She was experiencing a regressive disorder. It was tragic to see her strained husband’s helplessness at his wife’s torment.

    I found it overwhelming as a twenty-one-year-old girl to comprehend the nature of such human distress. 

    Ever since that winter, at such a formative time, the realisation of my own vulnerability has been a source of great strength to me.


    When we are threatened, we seek familiarity. 

    This is a basic human reaction in the face of actual danger or distress. 

    We student nurses placed great importance upon our hot dinners and hospital puddings to break up those interminable twelve-hour dayshifts! 

    At a few times in my life I have needed and appreciated these simple and ordinary elements of self-care. 

    This was one of the first of those seasons when a hot meal, a deep sleep, a friend’s listening ear and the prayers of a church family were all critical touchstones. 

    It took effort to stay on track in the face of the unfamiliar.


    I’m talking about avoiding a full-blown fear reaction such as the one I used to experience as a child in a terrifying scribbly line nightmare! 

    At some point our resistance can break down though. 

    We know these as emergencies.  Invariably everyone around us comes up trumps and makes themselves extremely helpful. 

    We are reminded that in a crisis, it is normal to need the help of others.  However, there are times when the necessary helpers don’t show up.


    My mission to Disentangle Genius is a passion to walk closely on your behalf when you may not have fully grasped the potential and vulnerability you carry. In seeking to undo knots it is always better to work up close, working into rather than pulling away from the tangle, so relieving the tension and loosening the mess.


    So, The KNOT of MADNESS – sounds like this…… ‘I know! Been there, done that, got the T-shirt’

    The seventh and final knot is a very subtle one.

    You could almost miss it.  Or you could pass it off as insignificant. 

    It looks the same breadth as the strand of thread itself. 

    You could think you might get away without untangling it. 

    Until the strand is caught in a loom or the eye of a needle and will not pass through!


    Cycling around and around like a spindle in a repetitious lullaby, you realise after some minutes, months or even years, that you have made no progress. 

    There are no ravelled bands of wool thickening on the bobbin. 

    All this time the very first loop has simply slipped around and around the column without any traction!


    Rhythm brings relief


    The essence of madness is to keep doing the same thing and expect a different result!

    So, then you must seek to find alternatives, variety and novelty.

    Seek to find nuance and degrees of variation.

    You may even find yourself seeking distraction and entertainment when your soul is numbed by repetition.

    This is a warning.

    You need more; you need relief from the false security of routine.

    You are falling asleep at the wheel of your lives, sedated, hypnotised by the hum and the spin.

    You need the rhythm to escalate rather than merely repeat on the same plane.


    You are designed to aspire in ever ascending spirals. Otherwise you continue, deluded or entranced by a plan with no prospect, exercised by empty endeavour and wondering why you feel a sevenfold frustration.

    Genius emerges only as you fail, learn and change accordingly!

    What maddening cycle must you stop? What new rhythm will you try?

    Because when you are maddened by repetition, you desire NOVELTY

    Express Rhythm in a continual flow of fruition – only then can you attractively represent the Creator through your Genius


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  • Losing it all – Jenna’s 2nd Dream


    Jenna wasn’t sure anymore if going to bed and chancing a strange dream would be a good idea at this point.

    The reality of the place she found herself in was, in many ways, just as unsettling.

    At least in her dreams she could wake up and know it wasn’t real…or was it?


    It was summer time and she’d agreed to meet her friend at their favourite coffee shop.

    They loved it partly because it was quieter than other places, but also because it was attached to a very fashionable women’s clothing store.

    Oh how they loved to play dress-up there, with all the fancy clothes they couldn’t really afford.

    They didn’t care. They had become familiar with the shop lady and she was happy for them to try on a few items and take some photos for their Instagram, which gave her some free advertising. Win-win!

    Jenna had been early that day, and she was about to order her second mango smoothie when she heard the shop lady come through and tell her all about the new party dresses that had just arrived.

    As this was happening, Cynthia arrived, apologising for being late, blowing air kisses as they assumed posh people would do when greeting one another.

    They were quite funny together. They didn’t care how they seemed to others. They were happy with each other.

    The shop lady called both of them over to try on the dresses.

    Jenna, usually very careful with her possessions, looked back at her bag on the floor and left it there. A deep sense of trust telling her it would be fine, although the hairs on the back of her neck were telling her otherwise.

    They tried on the dresses, Jenna a pink one that made her look like candyfloss; Cynthia a tighter fitting number – she was more daring after all – that made her look like she was about to sing to John Travolta at the end of Grease.

    Laughter filled the room, and they were oblivious to the passing of time.

    The only thing that had mattered was how much fun they had together.

    As they made their way back to where Jenna’s bag was, she realised it wasn’t there anymore.

    She looked around, almost becoming manic now with fear that all her stuff was gone.

    Her phone was the only thing she had on her as they were taking photos with it, but her purse, all her ID documents and cards were there.

    There was something symbolic about the contents of her bag, that if lost would give her so much more grief than just having to replace them.

    Why did I leave those things there! Why did I go against my best instinct and leave my bag there, easy prey for anyone to take!

    She didn’t know why she had done it, but she knew she needed to find it.


    Jenna woke up, in a sweat and with her heartbeat racing.

    She remembered having had this dream before, and what was going on in her life when she dreamt it.

    It took her quite a few minutes to recover and gather herself. To realise it was just a dream.

    But what could be taken away from her?


    Have you had dreams like this one?

    Did you manage to figure out what they meant to you?

    Have you ever woken up feeling like Jenna – sweating, heart racing, or even crying?

    Dreams are powerful and very revealing of where we are when we’re awake.

    What are your dreams telling you lately?


    Follow my blog via the link below to see what Jenna will dream up next Monday. I’ll be writing a blog post answering some of the questions above in the near future.


    The Beckoning Rooms Novel is now in it’s final development stages. My second baby is about to be brought into the world!.

    I will be launching it soon.

    This fiction mini-series will hopefully be whetting your appetite and get you ready for the novel. The characters are the same, but what happens in the novel is very different than what happens in this “prequel”.

    Be sure to stay tuned for another series, coming up after this one, on dream interpretation.


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  • Make Friends with Frustration by Disentangling your Genius Within (part 1) – Guest Blog series by Gill Bentham


    Did you ever awake to realize you were frustrated or confused? Your desires tangled and choked? Could you use help finding specific fulfilment?  

    In her debut book ‘Disentangling Genius’ my guest blogger Gill Bentham – author and creative – allows her imagination free rein in a world she struggled to make any impact upon. 

    In so doing she lays a trail of hope for those of us who feel utterly constrained. 

    With an imaginative license, she weaves philosophical comment and fantasy treatment of seven historical and contemporary characters who themselves show the way to untangle their genius.

    You can find your true self, your “genius” within and start to live the life that was always intended.


    Engaging with Gill’s book is both a brave and creative act! Prepare to be untangled!



    You’ll be taken into the imaginary studio of your mind to meet, master and unravel the Seven Knots of Frustration in a seven-step guide to aligning creative desire with expression.

    Colourful in imagery, richly inspiring and entirely practical in her approach, Gill guides the frustrated creative through contemplative reflections, coaching prompts and strategic questions. Discover the truth—you are a masterpiece waiting to be revealed!

    Let’s get going in this journey with Gill’s last and seventh of the knots in Disentangling Genius. Enjoy!


    the KNOT of MADNESS

    We learn that Rhythm brings Relief – The Knot of Madness requires you to RECYCLE and RECREATE

    So, what is maddening about your life?

    What is contrary to the way you want it?

    James Dyson has been called the modern-day Edison.  We’ll meet him and learn from a story that considers how many times it might be reasonable to ‘keep trying’?


    You have probably heard that Einstein was attributed with observing that we cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that caused them.  Or that the definition of madness is doing the same thing over and over again – expecting a different result.

    One of my mentors, John Maxwell, put it like this, ‘Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn!’  Genius only emerges as we repeatedly “fail”, learn and change accordingly. 

    What maddening cycle must you stop and what new rhythm must you try?

    What is the connection between repetition and frustration? 

    Is frustration a cause or an effect of repetition?


    With these questions in mind, I can’t help thinking about the unfairly stereotypical image of a mentally disturbed individual, rocking, drooling and crouching in a chair or a corner of the room.

    The nature of madness has been debated for centuries as an illness, a myth or a curse.  It still remains something taboo and threatening for the general population.

    Yet there is a little of it in us all. Probably a lot – under certain circumstances! 

    Who hasn’t found themselves twisting and fiddling with a soaked tissue in moments of sorrow, or pulling at the skin around their nail bed? 

    Or at times realised they had been lost in thought, repeatedly and absentmindedly jerking a thigh or a foot? 

    There is something comforting about cycles of repetition that give us a predictable, if only a minute, degree of control.


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  • Dreaming up unicorns – Jenna


    As Jenna fell asleep that first night, she snuggled up to her long lost teddy.

    Forgetting that she wasn’t ten anymore, she did what she always did when she was young.

    Rocked herself to sleep.


    When she opened her eyes, she noticed that her surroundings had changed yet again.

    This time, she’d travelled to a place of wonder.

    Bright, pastel colours shining all around her.

    Creatures she’d encountered before, some had three eyes and many legs, others just had a distinct colour she couldn’t even begin to name.

    She’d been here before. But she didn’t really know where she was.

    It was as if she’d been taken into one of her stories. The ones she used to read to distract herself with from daily life.

    She knew she was safe. She especially knew she was safe when, out of the corner of her eye, she saw her favourite mythical creature of all – a unicorn! How wonderful! She thought.

    Yes, it was a unicorn, but it was a baby one. Awwwww! She exclaimed. Taking in all the beauty of this place. The calm she felt was incredible.

    She giggled and smiled, like a little child. She felt free here.

    As she stood up, Jenna noticed underneath her was something like a cloud. It quickly dissipated as she took a step out of it, into the grassy ground underneath.

    Incredible! Jenna exclaimed, feeling extremely amused and intoxicated by the shiny brightness and blissfulness of this place.

    She wasn’t questioning anything, she was just walking around, enjoying herself.

    The baby unicorn had now reached her. Their eyes met, and they knew they were friends. They could trust one another.

    They both danced and jumped around together for a while. Jenna giggled and cuddled the baby unicorn, like they’d known each other forever.

    Then, suddenly, with one single move, the baby unicorn began to run away from Jenna. She chased him for what seemed an eternity.

    Panting and stopping to catch her breath, she realised the baby unicorn was nowhere to be found.

    She sat down on a purple rock and began to sob. It wasn’t fair that she’d lost her friend. Her only friend!

    After a short while, Jenna stood up. Gathered herself and continued searching.

    She searched and searched, and along the way she found other creatures that wanted to be her friend.

    She felt guilty. She couldn’t get new friends yet?!

    She couldn’t betray the baby unicorn, even if he’d left her first.

    Walking on, Jenna began to notice behind her, how the other creatures had been following her and keeping her company.

    It felt like the start of something new.

    But what about baby unicorn? Who’ll take care of him?

    Somehow she knew he’d be fine. He always was. In her other dreams, they always found each other again.

    Maybe in her next dream, he’ll be here.

    She also knew she’d be fine. She had lots of new fantastic friends around her. they’d help her on her way.

    As she thought this, she found a patch of soft grass, and lied down to sleep. She was so tired after all that running.


    Jenna woke up, smiling. She loved those dreams! She smiled at the power of her imagination, and got up, unsure of what the day would bring.


    Have you had dreams like this one?

    Did you manage to figure out what they meant to you?

    There’s something about this dream, that talks of hope, of a fantasy world that is much kinder than the world Jenna existed in when she was younger. A place where she can be free. Where she can have true companionship and understanding. No words necessary.

    What could the baby unicorn be representing for Jenna?

    And what could his leaving mean?

    What about the other creatures that were following her?


    Follow my blog via the link below to see what Jenna will dream up next Monday. I’ll be writing a blog post answering some of the questions above in the near future.


    The Beckoning Rooms Novel is now in it’s final development stages. My second baby is about to be brought into the world!.

    I will be launching it soon.

    This fiction mini-series will hopefully be whetting your appetite and get you ready for the novel. The characters are the same, but what happens in the novel is very different than what happens in this “prequel”.

    Be sure to stay tuned for another series, coming up after this one, on dream interpretation.


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  • Dreaming up the repressed – fiction mini-series


    They’d never had dreams like these before. So vivid, yet so unreal that when they woke up they knew they’d just had one.

    Sometimes, they’d even know they were dreaming from within the dream itself! That might come in handy in their waking hours as well, but that’ll have to wait for another day.

    As they all traveled through the different worlds, created by the deepest, darkest, most unconscious parts of themselves, they discovered things that they wished had stayed put where they were originally sent.

    Forgotten. Unable to harm them or call them up to experience things they’d long left in the past.

    This is the power of dreams. We can’t help but dream. It happens to us without much conscious control.

    Our unconscious beckons us. The repressed beckons us.

    It succeeds in one way or another. Survival depends on what we do with what we uncover.

    Survival? For Jenna, Jacob and Jeremiah it feels just like that. In a dream state or an awake state, they’re not sure anymore.

    The beckoning rooms are there in their waking hours. Their dreams in their sleep.

    Dreaming up the repressed will take you on a journey to the most remote areas of these three people’s minds.

    Will you dream up the repressed tonight?


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    The Beckoning Rooms Novel is now in it’s final development stages. My second baby is about to be brought into the world!.

    I will be launching it soon.

    This fiction mini-series will hopefully be whetting your appetite and get you ready for the novel. The characters are the same, but what happens in the novel is very different than what happens in this “prequel”.

    Be sure to stay tuned for another series, coming up after this one, on dream interpretation.


  • Quick relationship check – Blog Post Showcase by Julia Greer

    Hi all, and welcome to this week’s blog post showcase, written and created by one of my Practical Steps to Blogging and the Images and Video Experiential Workshops, ran with Onlinevents.

    In this occasion, Julia Greer is inviting us to do a quick relationship check-up.

    I hope these insights will help you on your relationship journey and what you need to decide – it’s not easy but sometimes necessary.

    The way that Julia has set up her blog post is very nice, as she’s used Canva, which we learned in one of the workshops I offer.

    Let us know what you think either in the comments to this post, or directly via Julia’s website.

    Enjoy!



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  • 4 Ways to Succeed as an Entrepreneur – Guest post by Andy Beck

    Hi everyone, and welcome to this Wednesday’s guest post, by our very own Andy Beck!

    Before I pass this post over to Andy, let me tell you a bit about how I got here. It’s nice to reminisce on where we started and how far we’ve come, but also how much of the path is still in the future…

    I hope Andy’s and my words are encouraging and helpful to those reading them.


    I started my journey into entrepreneurship by starting my private counselling practice back in 2013, which has grown to encompass supervision since 2016 and coaching as well in the past year.

    I’ve also begun a journey into furthering my entrepreneurial skills by publishing my first book in 2018 – 20 Self-Care Habits – and writing a novel which will be published in the next few months through Author Academy Elite (affiliate link), so watch out for that!

    I’ve also figured out how to fill my practice through content marketing, which includes blogging, and have started to teach colleagues how to use these tools to their advantage, by showcasing their knowledge and putting themselves out there so the clients that need them can find them.

    I’m currently working on finishing my fiction novel based on things that have happened in my own therapy and dream life, and creating a brand new website for new products and services, so stay tuned!


    In tune with this week’s post – I have to say, I couldn’t have done it without the support of my colleagues, and more recently my fellow London Chapter Igniters, which includes Andy of course!


    Anyway, without further ado, let’s get into what Andy wants to tell us today, It’s very insightful and important, especially if you want to join us in the entrepreneur world!

    Don’t forget to check out his book Folk Springs Eternal, the intro to his new course, This is my name, and his blog!


    “Look for the things and people that will help you achieve your wellbeing goals, and support each other.”

    That’s a nugget of wisdom from our host, the estimable Karin Brauner, and it’s a wisdom that I can attest to. 


    When you’re any kind of entrepreneur—especially one just starting out—the uphill battle before you can look unwelcoming, unrewarding, unpaid…you know, [insert negative adjective here]. 

    Often we are counselled by society to expect money in return for our time.

    I, for one, know that every office job I’ve ever had has cemented that belief, or tried to. 

    As such, when you’re attempting to get your own gig off the ground, you’ll likely find yourself investing plenty of time, but not seeing much return.

    How do you keep going?

    How do you retain momentum?

    The momentum you’ll need to smash through the roadblocks ahead, and start seeing results both financial and spiritual in nature? 

    In this post, I give you four methods that have helped me so far.

    Now I may not yet be earning enough money to live from my Celtic folk music and novels.

    But damn it, come hell or high water, I’m going to get there. 



    Let’s return to Karin’s aforementioned quote: “Look for the things and people that will help you achieve your goals.”

    When you walk away from the beaten path to strike out on your own, you will most likely encounter criticism.

    It will come from bosses, colleagues, family and friends, the people who know you well.

    But it can also come from strangers.

    There’s always gonna be people who don’t get us,” says Guthrie ‘Gus’ Ward, the rat-bag hero of my debut novel Folk Springs Eternal .

    “They don’t understand us and they don’t wanna understand. Ignoring them can be hard, but that’s why we don’t walk alone.” 

    Re-read that last bit. 

    That’s why we don’t walk alone.

    Nobody with a dream for better should be forced to suffer alone, whether it’s under the weight of criticism, or the burden of forging that path all by oneself.

    Start by surrounding yourself with positive, passionate people.

    I really think the late American entrepreneur Scott Dinsmore was right when he gave that advice in his famous TED talk How to find and do work you love .

    I’m unashamed to admit that it was through Scott’s videos, and the worldwide Live Your Legend movement that he founded, that my own understanding of the world (and my place in it) was first turned on its head.

    The message that Scott lived and breathed was, “find and do the work you love”.

    I heard that message, loved it, attended the Live Your Legend meetups in London, and even ended up co-hosting them. 

    What did I learn along the way?

    Simply put, you should spend your time with people who inspire you, and who are already succeeding.

    This will help you cultivate the belief that it can be done, that your dream isn’t impossible.

    Conversely, spend time hanging around people who don’t take you seriously, or perhaps even exhibit signs of resentment and jealousy, and that will only sap you of your energy.

    Worse still, it may frighten you back into the fold with the other statistical 80% who don’t enjoy their work. 

    So when I said “damn it, come hell or high water, I’m going to get there”, I meant it.

    Scary as it sounds, what waits on the other side is a life of success, strength and euphoria that you never imagined.

    Something that looks and feels a little like this:

    Something not to be feared. 



    The final part of Karin’s aforementioned quote was, “support each other”. 

    So here’s a challenge for ya, dear reader 😉 

    Write down the names of 2-3 people who believe in you, and believe in what you do.

    They could be close friends, colleagues you get on well with, or people you’ll meet at a networking event advertised on the likes of Meetup.com.

    Basically, someone who’s told you that you’re good at what you do, and should try to do more with it.

    Ask one such person if they’ll be happy to check in with you once a week, to ask you for an update on your progress against your weekly goals. 

    Sounds motivating? 

    😊 Good. This approach is called Accountability, and speaking from experience, it’s a powerful weapon in the inventory of the entrepreneur.

    The likelihood of you motivating yourself to achieve a goal is 65% higher if you’ve promised that goal to someone.

    Book an appointment to check in with that person, and the stat goes up to a staggering 95% . 


    The most beneficial Accountability partnerships are, of course, reciprocal in nature, where the other person holds you accountable and you return the favour.

    Small groups of three or four can work too, allowing for different feedback that two people alone may not have thought of.

    Whatever you do, remember to keep those goals SMART—specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound.

    I would particularly emphasise the third of these.

    Break that mountain of your dreams down into more realistic, bitesize goals, and soon you’ll find yourself climbing up, edging slowly closer to the peak that previously you’d only been able to revere from the very bottom.



    Another avenue via which you may find an Accountability partner, or just the direction you need, is the ever-popular self-help course.

    I’ve bought and followed courses by Leah McHenry for my music, and Kary Oberbrunner for my writing.

    In Folk Springs Eternal, Austrian-born mandolinist Herman enrols in a music marketing course too, offered by a Leah McHenry-esque figure helping bands to get the maximum out of their online efforts.

    While it’s not a five-minute job, Herman makes some serious progress, and slowly I, too, can feel the momentum building in my favour. 

    Without a doubt, the biggest change that Leah and Kary have stirred in me is a mindset shift.

    In 2016, I suffered from a lot of self-doubt, telling myself things like, “Well I’m not an entrepreneur”, or “I just wasn’t made to succeed on my own terms”.

    Fast-forward to 2020, and I’ve cast off a considerable chunk of that yoke.

    My own Accountability partners have noted the change in my self-confidence and self-projection over the past four years, and I’ve started to make some sales, with 50 books sold since the novel came out in September. My next target is 50 more by the close of 2020, this most unusual of years. 

    Such is the power of the self-help course to give people a sense of direction, and to bring like-minded people together, that I’m in the process of setting up my own course.

    Entitled This Is My Name, there’s a lot of work to be done on it yet, but I’m excited for the positive changes that I’ll inspire in others, reflecting the same growth that I myself have experienced over the past few years. 




    If you’re not keen on going all-in on personal development courses, some of which come at a hefty price, then one-on-one coaching sessions may be better suited to your situation.

    Speaking again from experience, I have worked with one or two newer performance coaches who were looking for testimonials, and agreed to a fixed number of free coaching sessions in exchange for a positive review. So start by asking around.

    Alternatively, keep an eye out for whatever deals performance coaches may be offering at the moment, given the craziness of COVID-19 and its pretty devastating effects on the economy.
     

    But COVID aside…

    just like having a private tutor for learning a musical instrument or a foreign language, having a counsellor to guide you on your personal journey to success can be an invaluable asset.

    Again, nobody should have to walk the road less travelled alone, and who better to take you and your ambitions seriously than a certified coach with some glowing reviews in the bag? 

    So tell me…

    what do you think?

    Which of these four approaches resonates most with you?

    Is there perhaps a fifth approach that we should have factored in?



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  • The Calmer Waters of Meditation – By Guest Blogger Andrew Beck (part 3)


    Hi, and welcome to part 3 of this guest blog post by my musician and author friend, Andy Beck.

    Welcome to part 3 of Andy’s guest posts.

    In this post, Andy talks to us about how mindfulness works.


    So, how does mindfulness work?


    Mindfulness teaches you to let go.

    Unlike other forms of therapy, which teach you to analyse whatever is troubling you, MBCT takes the opposite approach. “I can let it go,” is one of the most powerful statements I’ve come across.

    When I catch my mind starting to run away with itself, I can let that negative thought or feeling go.

    Of course, it’s perfectly natural to worry when bad things happen in the world.

    That terrible crime reported on the news, the gang violence rife in some cities, the political and financial corruption pervading much of the world.

    BUT: all your worrying and fretting will not change the way the world is.

    It won’t reverse any of the examples I’ve just given, and it won’t stop people from being pricks to each other. But what you can control, and change, is how you deal with it all. 


    Two of the most common mental health problems in the world are depression and anxiety.


    I’ve had both, as confirmed by my own self-diagnosis on e.g. the NHS website.

    Now depression is rooted in the past; you can’t be depressed over something unless it’s already happened.

    Meanwhile, anxiety is rooted in the future; you can’t be anxious
    about something unless you’re afraid it might happen.

    The reason Mindfulness works is because it knocks both of these bastards out.

    By engaging us in exercises where we’re forced to live in the present, Mindfulness stops us from dwelling too much on the past, or fretting too much about the future. 

    I think this logic is genius.

    And the result?

    Both depression and anxiety have had the wind knocked out of their sails, their arms removed. 


    Change the song

    One weird thing about my mind is how it’s sometimes like a broken record. 

    Quite literally.

    I think about music so much that I can barely get through a day without 3 or 4 songs being stuck in my head, the same snippet repeating over and over again in my head for a good 45 minutes.


    It could be any song, by any band; Biffy Clyro, Julie Fowlis, INXS and Sir Reg are all recent examples. 

    Gus, being the male protagonist in Folk Springs Eternal, is in exactly the same boat.

    A sure sign of how much we both love music?

    Yep.
    Enough to drive anyone mad?

    Again, yep!


     Fortunately, over time I’ve started to noticed the trend.

    I’ve noticed how the music in my head can and does affect my mood.

    Sometimes, when I’m on auto-pilot, with that broken record spinning, my mind starts to run away with itself. This is what the professionals call “ruminating”.

    Now, thanks to MBCT, if I can feel that mental fog starting to gather, I just
    notice it (“Ah!”) and then change the song.

    One of my go-to pieces of music for keeping a clear head is Aphex Twin’s “Parallel Stripes”, which makes me feel like I’m floating through space.

     A great piece to relax to. 

    Changing the song is a life-altering habit that Mindfulness has helped me
    cultivate, one that in turn cultivates calm and composure in my mind and heart.

    It helps me keep on top of things mentally, to prevent that ol’ rumination
    from happening and dragging my heart down.


    My challenge to you, then…


    Like life, music is about the highs and the lows.

    The euphoria and the grief.

    The tears of joy and those of sadness.

    In this post, I have focused on the lows—and what one might do about them.

    I encourage you to give MBCT a try, starting with Mark Williams’ audiobook.

    See what it can do for you.

    And by all means, let Karin and me know. 

    It is true that bad things will happen in life.

    No matter what we entrepreneurs do, negative experiences and events will rock us.

    But we can still prepare ourselves mentally, so that such moments don’t drag us down for any longer than necessary.

    For me, Mindfulness meditation makes that clear.

    I hope the same will be true for you, too. 

    Love,

    Andy x

     

     

    I hope you enjoyed this installment of our Guest post this week.

    We will be collaborating with Andy for a few more guest posts, so if you haven’t, subscribe to my blog to follow them (see the form below), and also do go follow Andy’s blog page through this link for more on folk music, self-care and updates on his upcoming products and services.


     

    We’ll have a new post series by Andy starting next Wednesday, all about how to survive as an entrepreneur.

    Watch out for it at 10am GMT Next week!

     


     

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  • Be the change you want to see, by Helen Cruthers (Collaboration/Blog Post Showcase)

    Hi and welcome to today’s blog post.

    As some of my Practical Steps to Blogging workshop attendees have asked me to publish their blogs in full on my blog post, I thought I’d do what I do with my guest posts and share them as such – guest posts!

    I’ll be adding links to Helen’s lovely website throughout so you can get in touch with her, and follow her blog directly from her website as well!

    I hope you enjoy this blog post she’s beautifully created in Canva, using the skills she learned in my workshop, Practical steps to Canva and Lumen5!




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  • The Calmer Waters of Meditation – By Guest Blogger Andrew Beck (part 2)


    Hi, and welcome to part 2 of this guest blog post by my musician and author friend, Andy Beck.

    In this post, Andy will tell us about how he found Minfulness based cognitive therapy, and how it’s worked for him.


    It’s not a one off

    First things first…MBCT is not a one-off. It’s not a one-time form of therapy that “fixes” you, so you can just carry on like before.

    No—with Mindfulness meditation, we walk away with a practice for life.

    Something we can engage in for 5-10 minutes (or longer) every day.

    Far from being burdensome, this keeps you on the straight and narrow, mentally speaking, from day to day. 

    So what is it? 

    Basically, Mindfulness meditation involves simple breathing exercises. These bring your mind under control, gently.

    This reduces the stress, the panic, the moodiness etc. of your daily life.

    The more you practice it, the better you’ll get at keeping your mind cool, calm and collected

    Is it hard? 

    Nope.

    Mindfulness is very easy, and almost anyone can practice it.

    Think it’s some guy up a mountain somewhere, sitting cross-legged with his arms outstretched humming to himself?

    Think again.

    All you need, in order to get started, is a comfortable chair to sit on, 10 minutes to yourself, and e.g. this video

    Is it expensive? 

    Nope.

    All I’ve ever spent on MBCT was £10.49 on the aforementioned Audible book by Mark Williams and Danny Penman .

    The best investment of £10 I’ve ever made!

    The only other thing you need to invest is time, so that you’ll understand both the theory and the practice. 

    Is it genuine?

    Yep.

    Mindfulness techniques have been around for several decades in the West, and have been developed by leading researchers and professors working at some of the best universities in the world. 

    So in other words, it ain’t fake. 

    Is it scary?

    Not in my experience.

    Mark Williams might not be the only MBCT guru out there, but he has one hell of a relaxing voice (here’s another example video).

    The form of therapy he teaches doesn’t freak me out or make me feel unpleasant in the slightest, and it never has. 

    Is there an app for it?

    Of course!

    I’ve used Insight Timer a fair bit, though Headspace also gets a very good write-up.

    Other apps are available too. 

    Synctuition, while not strictly related to Mindfulness, is an interesting one to try before bedtime, though the free option is limited. 

    Is it effective? 

    Yes.

    Not only has it turned my life around, but check out the following example case study.

    At Exeter University in 2008, a group of individuals who had each suffered from a major episode of depression were split into two groups.

    One group was given anti-depressants, the other got MBCT.

    After a year’s worth of monitoring, both groups had recovered to the same extent.

    Meaning that Mindfulness is just as effective as taking medication, perhaps even more so. 

    Dr. Stuart Eisendrath at the University of California explains more about the study here (Applying Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy to Treatment).

    I can recommend the whole video. 


    I hope you enjoyed this installment of our Guest post this week.

    We will be collaborating with Andy for a few more guest posts, so if you haven’t, subscribe to my blog to follow them (see the form below), and also do go follow Andy’s blog page through this link for more on folk music, self-care and updates on his upcoming products and services.


    In next week’s post, Andy will tell us a bit more about how mindfulness works, from his personal experience with it.

    A disclaimer as a therapist: there are lots of great and useful tools out there to help you in your daily life, including mindfulness apps, and related books like Andy’s, mine, and others.

    These resources will help you tackle those things that have had you stuck for a long time, but I have to add one thing that I’ve learned through my training and experience as a counsellor:

    I am a firm believer in the power of the therapeutic relationship in the healing process, so finding a nice balance between the resources mentioned in this post, and finding a therapist to talk through some of these things will be of great benefit.

    Until next week….


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  • Labels of Love, by Helen Cruthers (Collaboration/Blog Post Showcase)

    Hi and welcome to today’s blog post.

    As some of my Practical Steps to Blogging workshop attendees have asked me to publish their blogs in full on my blog post, I thought I’d do what I do with my guest posts and share them as such – guest posts!

    I’ll be adding links to Helen’s lovely website throughout so you can get in touch with her, and follow her blog directly from her website as well!

    I hope you enjoy this blog post she’s written, I know I have!


    ‘to diagnose or not to diagnose – that is the question’


    When I became aware that Shula was ‘different’ my instinct was to ask for professionals to assess and to explore.

    This could be because I am from a medical background, or because she was not terribly happy much of the time, and definitely because I felt out of my depth as a parent having felt pretty competent with my first two.

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    I often felt chastened by what I perceived as others’ more unconditional acceptance of her as a being. Her lovely nursery didn’t raise any issues (despite her struggle with wearing clothes and interacting with peers) and were great at supporting her being her.

    Her dad was worried that a diagnosis would limit her – that she would be seen as ‘autism first’, ‘Shula second’.

    There was also a sense that I could be ‘making a mountain out of a molehill’ -especially as some of her challenges were more subtle, and she rarely presented as ‘typically autistic’.

    And yet my instinct parenting her closely as a full-time mum – backed up by my professional experience of working with families – eventually led us to seeking assessment. 

    My educated guess was that she was on the autistic spectrum, and my fear was that I’d be letting her down if I didn’t explore that option – even if only to rule it out.

    My view was that if I was wrong then there would be no harm done and I would be able to adjust my perceptions accordingly (after perhaps eating a bit of humble pie).

    I so wanted to be the mum she needed me to be. If she had a neurodevelopmental difference, I wanted to know.

    If she didn’t – I would improve my parenting according to how she presented as an individual, without so much wondering about:

    is it? isn’t it?… something seems amiss…but maybe I’m just a judgy bad mum who isn’t unconditionally accepting her child’.

    Too much ‘beating myself up’ or ‘ruminating’ like this isn’t good for anyone -and could definitely undermine my capacity to enjoy her to the full or make the best of my strengths as a parent.

    She was diagnosed with ‘childhood autism’, later changed to ‘Asperger’s Syndrome’ which now officially doesn’t exist as a diagnosis any more. This can be another reason for resisting ‘labelling’ a child – the field is constantly evolving and changing – and how much do ‘experts’ really know anyway?

    For me – and I believe for Shula – it was a gamechanger.

    As well as shock, fear, and grief, I felt that I had ‘seen’ her and had started my journey of understanding her better.

    I read books, went on courses, and adapted my expectations and parenting according to my developing knowledge and skillset.

    I became more able to see her amazing strengths and more able to accept the parenting challenges she presented to me.

    I felt ‘lighter’ and brought more humour to our interactions.

    I felt less inadequate.

    I became more compassionate to her and to myself.

    I learned so much from her and I learned more about myself, about neurotypical assumptions, and about diversity.

    Supporting parents to understand, support and enjoy their children is a key part of my work and my passion.

    I believe the right diagnosis can be incredibly helpful in this process.

    It may be too obvious to state that the wrong diagnosis is not helpful.


    Just because a child is different, challenging, or not what we expected doesn’t mean there is ‘something wrong’ or they have a diagnosable condition.


    Looking at ourselves as parents is key – we need to work hard to be receptive to our children’s individuality, challenge our assumptions, and be willing to adapt our relating according to their needs.

    Many of the children I work with have complex developmental trauma, and the autistic-type or adhd-type traits they present with can be more ‘nurture’ than ‘nature’.

    Skilful exploration is needed to see if assessment for a comorbid neurodevelopmental condition would be helpful or not.

    When children do have a condition such as autism or adhd, as we currently understand them, my belief and experience is that assessment and subsequent diagnosis can be incredibly helpful.

    A label can have many benefits including:

    • signposting better ways to meet the child’s needs
    • being a ‘shortcut’ communication to others – we should all be thoughtful and kind to everybody – but sometimes it helps us to be accepting if we understand a little of why someone might be struggling
    • helping a child and their family access crucial services – such as additional support at school
    • supporting the individual to understand themselves in a more compassionate way – ‘oh…I have Asperger’s – that’s why some things are so hard for me – I’m not just wrong’  and help them ‘voice’ their needs to others
    • introducing us to communities of other families who are having some similar experiences and we can feel less alone and more connected
    • putting us in touch with professionals who can offer crucial input advice and advocacy
    • meaning that a child gets appropriate support and intervention earlier rather than later which research shows leads to more positive outcomes
    • being a positive part of a young person’s identity

    My advice, therefore, would be – keep an open mind.

    I firmly believe that I am closer to Shula, enjoy her more, support her better, have more fun with her, and respect her difference more than if we hadn’t sought diagnosis.

    At 15, I am so proud of who she is as a young person.

    This is enhanced by my strong understanding of how hard life can be for her sometimes.


    I asked Shula to read this blog and comment –  

     Love it! I think it’s amazing Mum.

    I asked for her opinion on having a diagnosis/label:

    ‘Being diagnosed with autism has definitely helped me a lot, if it wasn’t for my amazing mother my life would be very very different and a lot worse.’

    Well I wasn’t expecting quite such glowing praise but am impressed by the social skills and very touched by the sentiment!


    I recently attended my first Cork Autism Conference – on Zoom.

    In a future post I will be reflecting on developments in the field of autism and my new learnings.


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  • The Calmer Waters of Meditation – By Guest Blogger Andrew Beck (part 1)


    Hi, and welcome to this guest blog post by my musician and author friend, Andy Beck.

    We met through an autor programme called Author Academy Elite, which is based in The United States and offers a lot of programmes for self and professional development. More specifically, we met through the Igniting Souls London group, led by yours truly, and we’ve become accountable to each other and a third member who I will be featuring here once her book is published, as she touches on a topic close to my heart as well – Autism.

    It’s safe to say that we both would recommend Kary Oberbrunner and his programmes! You can test out the free versions first and then decide for yourself.

    Let me now tell you a bit about what the next few posts will be about…


    Andy has recently published his new book FOLK SPRINGS ETERNAL, which follows four talented musicians playing Irish and Scottish music with a punk twist.

    So, why is Andy talking to us about mindfulness and meditation if his book is about music?


    Folk music, a passion of Andy’s, as well as Self-care, are at the heart of this book.

    In a nutshell (as revealed in the Amazon summary of this book), the book talks about how these four individuals navigate through life to get where they want, finding the tools they need to find success among the criticism, the busyness of life, and every obstacle that is placed among them.

    Sound familiar? We all go through similar things, so this book is very relatable whether you’re into folk music or not.

    At the end of the book, Andy offers coaching and other services that will help guide you to find success and to withstand setbacks and failures.

    Without further ado, I’ll let Andy talk directly to you guys about what he’s found through writing this novel, his own life journey and his discovery of meditation as a means to reach his goals and do what he’s passionate about.


    “You should be a priority in your life at all times,” said my author friend Karin Brauner when introducing her book “20 Self Care Habits”.

    Get that right, and pandemic or no pandemic, all of life’s other obligations will be less of a strain. 

    I know what that strain feels like…


    My wife and I spent a week in the Inner Hebrides in 2017.

    Yes, we were on holiday in Scotland, one of the most beautiful parts of the UK. And I felt dreadful.

    Far too much time to think, not enough control over my thoughts to stop them spiralling out of control. 



    This is just one example.

    Fortunately, my breakthrough came that same year; having suffered from depression and anxiety on and off since my mid-teens, I finally discovered Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT), or Mindfulness meditation.

    And it worked.

    This is something of a miracle, given that I was convinced I was beyond help, that my mind was some incomprehensible maze. 



    And I’m not the only one to feel this way. 

    Even Lin, the heroine in my recent novel Folk Springs Eternal, struggles not only as an Irish folk musician but also with her own state of mind: 

    [S]he needed to control her temper. The irascible attitude, the raised voice, the profanity, definitely the way she’d behaved towards Gus and Herman that morning. None of it had helped; more to the point, it was embarrassing, both to her and to her friends. 

    But what could she do to address her aggression issues?

    She had no idea where to start, and her only inkling was defeatist. 

    Maybe I can’t change.


    Do you recognise yourself in any of the above?

    Feel like demons are stalking you, and you don’t have much of a defence?

    Then this post is for you.

    Lin chooses to embrace the calmer waters of meditation, and just like me three years ago, it turns her life around.

    She goes from being verbally and physically abusive towards those closest to her, to showing them the respect and affection they deserve (and quitting nicotine).


    Even if the world is not much different, her world certainly is.

    And so is mine.

    Now, we can both show the world the best versions of ourselves, and try to leave the positive mark on it that we want to be remembered for. 


    While I can’t say that Mindfulness will be THE answer for you (as different therapies work for different people), my mental health advice is as follows:

    “Never stop searching for answers.”

    Thus, knowing about MBCT can’t hurt; it at least gives you the chance to try it out, to see whether it will benefit you. 


    I hope you enjoyed this installment of our Guest post this week.

    We will be collaborating with Andy for a few more guest posts, so if you haven’t, subscribe to my blog to follow them (see the form below), and also do go follow Andy’s blog page through this link for more on folk music, self-care and updates on his upcoming products and services.


    In next week’s post, Andy will continue talking to us about mindfulness based cognitive therapy.

    Just a note from the therapist in me: if you’d like to know more about other therapies also available, you can have a look at my website in the “how I work” section.

    Until next week….


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  • Blog Post Showcase: Who is Chloe Foster? A series.


    Hello everyone, and welcome to this ongoing series, where I’ll be showcasing the blog posts that the graduates of my workshop via onlinevents experiential workshops have written.


    In today’s post, I’m sharing Chloe Foster’s series entitled “Who am I?” where she tells us about her journey before becoming a counsellor, what led her to train and open her practice in 2016.

    You can find my story in my about me and how I work pages.

    I hope you enjoy Chloe’s mini-series, which I’ll leave links for below:

    Part 1 – Who am I?

    Part 2 – Who am I?

    Part 3 – Who am I?


    I’ll be updating these posts as I receive links to colleague’s blog posts. Keep an eye out for these!

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