Welcome to this week’s Question and Answer post!
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This week’s question comes from a member of the public:
What should you do when you don’t know what to do? I feel like I should be doing something, but I’m not sure what that is.
This is a very broad question, but I’m sure he’s not the only one facing such a moment in life.
This is one of the topics that might come to me from someone requesting counselling sessions.
Feeling stuck or like you lost your path is something that happens to all of us as human beings. So the first thing I want to say in response is that there is nothing wrong with feeling like this, you are only being human.
In a world where we are expected to always be doing something and keeping busy, knowing exactly what we want from life and what we really want to do might be something that’s sent to the back burner until things get too much and we are faced with the prospect of change.
So what should you do when you don’t know what to do? Here are a few suggestions:
- Stop punishing or judging yourself for reaching a place where you don’t know what to do with your life.
- Take time out from thinking about what you want to do and think about what you don’t want to do. This will narrow down the list of things that you want to do and allow you to stop wasting time on thinking about those things that you really don’t want anything to do with.
- Go to counselling sessions to uncover the why’s of feeling this way now, as well as finding your path in life again.
- Focus on what’s important for you , what makes you happy, and within that, you might find the answer to “what to do”.
- Forgive yourself for not knowing – who said to you that you had to know everything all the time?
- Try to enjoy the place where you are in life right now, whilst considering what small changes you can start making to find out what you want to do and move out of those activities and things that you don’t want anymore.
- Surround yourself with positive people that can help you figure this out. Sharing the burden makes it easier. Feeling understood and knowing you are not alone in this journey will also relieve your anxiety and stress about what to do.
Dear readers, if you have any further suggestions or answers to his question, feel free to message me or leave a comment below!