Yes, you read right…but having a bath is not all I want to talk about this week.
What this article is really about is this: being on your own.
Now I realise that society tells us that being a hermit or isolated from others is a terrible, terrible thing. But I’m not talking about being on your own all the time. I am talking about taking the time to be on your own, to re-charge your energies and therefore be able to be with others feeling better about yourself and them!
For me, I need to disconnect from people to re-charge. Doing my counselling work is different though. It is more when I’m socialising that I feel drained by the end of it. So having my own space is important to me.
Others might re-charge by actually spending time with others, which will be the topic of next week’s post!
So do I feel lonely when I spend time on my own? Not at all! In fact I believe it is necessary for everyone to have time on their own once in a while.
Solitude is important to replenish yourself with what you need to be able to do life and to weather everything it has to give: problems, fun times, strong emotions, as well as it replenishes us in order to be able to give to others, to do our work well, to live well.
Here are some suggestions of how to be alone – without feeling lonely – and getting the most of that time:
Have a bath
I learned from a young lady with Autism that I used to support. When she had a bit of a difficult day, she would ask for a bath. Sometimes she would have 2-3 baths in the space of 7 hours, but it really relaxed her! At this point I hadn’t had a bath since playing with my sister when we were little, and saw no benefit – just a waste of time and water.
But having tried it since then, I am definitely a fan!
Get some Epsom Salts, Lavender Salts, some candles and your favourite music, and relax!
Try it and drop me a line below with the results!
It will also give you a chance to meditate and reflect on life, your plans, your relationships, or just a chance to zone out and enjoy time to yourself.
Get to know yourself better
Meditating will allow you time to think about the things that you have done in your life in the past, what you are doing now, and what you want to do in the near and distant future.
Getting to know yourself better will also allow you to change the way you are in relationships, to begin new ones or end the ones that are either toxic or not good for you in other ways, to set clearer boundaries that make you happier, and to find ways to care for yourself that match your personality and needs.
Reading / writing / journaling / drawing / colouring / singing / cross-stitching or crocheting
This is a bit of a varied list, but not all of us are good at all of these or would necessarily enjoy some of these as a relaxing activity!
I particularly would prefer to read or write, which is what I am doing right now! Be true to yourself and find what works best. Remember, it’s about relaxing and looking after yourself. You have enough “work” to do in other areas of your life, this is a gift from yourself to yourself, something easy and lovely for you to enjoy!
Have a nap
This is one of my favourite activities, anyone that knows me will vouch for this one!
Sleep is a great way to disconnect from everything around us and, I find that it helps to work through problems or to think through what to do next – for example what to write on my blog next comes up for me after a nice bit of sleep!
So you need sleep not only to get your body and your brain to rest, but also to process your emotions, and any issues, problems or situations that might be going on for you right now.
Cook a nice meal for yourself or cheat and get a take away!
Cooking can be a very relaxing activity for some of us. Others might just go for the take away menu and make a call, which is perfectly fine. I like doing that too!
There is something in preparing our own meal, there is something caring about it. Meditation can also be done during this time as you focus on chopping, frying, preparing.
Find something you enjoy, find its recipe and ingredients and enjoy!
Exercise / go for a walk
In a few weeks time, I will be talking about the importance of keeping fit, so will keep it short here.
A great space to meditate is amongst nature, amongst the fresh air. So you get two things for the price of one! And both are free!
So go for it, try one or two or all of these and let me know how it goes!
Until next time…